FINALLL

contrast the qualities of an awful relationship you’ve had to a good one

Contrast Essays.

Relationships come in all different forms; there are good relationships and awful relationship. Everyone has been in a good relationship and than there are those relationship that are completely awful in multiple ways. I have experienced an awful relationship and I have experience an amazing relationship; and I definitely know the difference between a great and a horrible relationship.
In my last relationship I was always unhappy, and I could never do anything right. I was always in the wrong some how with my ex-boyfriend Curtis. It was like if I even breathed wrong than he would bite my head off. I was never happy with him; he was always making me cry because he’d yell at me, swear at me and put me down negatively. I remember one day I had just got to his house and I was out talking on the phone, and when I had came inside his house he started yelling at me because I didn’t tell him who I was talking to and why I was talking to who I was. There were many of multiple different times he yelled at me for random things, and most of the time I didn’t even know what I did to get yelled at. Swearing at me was a thing he was good at. He was always calling me a bitch, slut, whore and all the horrible names that could bring a girls ego go from a hundred to negative zero. When he got mad at someone else like his parents because he couldn’t do what he wanted to do, he would take it out on me. It was ridiculous. Not only did he just swear at me but he was always putting me down telling me that I had to be with him because no one else would ever want to be with me. He pretty much had me convinced what he said was the word, he was right about everything, and he made sure he got that across to me. He would also tell me that I was ugly, and that he could do so much better than me. His favorite thing to tell me to make me feel like crap was that I was fat. I never really thought that he actually meant what he said but towards the end, I knew that the feelings just weren’t there and we just weren’t meant to be together. The relationship I am in now with Michael has been amazing. He never yells at me, swears at me or puts me down. I can make Michael mad but he doesn’t fly off the handle at me, he will sit down and tell me what I did to make him mad and gives me a chance to apologize to him. He treats me like I should be treated. He never swears at me or calls me names that he actually means. We always fool around and call each other a slut, but it’s just joking around and we both know that. There is never a moment where he puts me down either. He always tells me that I am beautiful and that I am the girl for him. He tells me I’m perfect just the way I am, and to never change. When I am all frustrated because I don’t understand something he doesn’t tell me “Katie, you’re so stupid.” Instead he tells me “Babe, just calm down. You’ll get it. It just takes practice.” I never thought that I would be with someone who cares so much about me, and loves me for who I am. He never tells me that he deserves better what so ever. I honestly never thought that I would be able to find someone who treats me like I am suppose to be and not treated like dirt.
Fighting was another big issue with Curtis. We were always fighting over stupid things like if I didn’t call him at the exact time I said I would or if I wasn’t at his house at the time he told me to be there. It was ridiculous. I couldn’t even look or talk to any of my guy friends. Whenever I didn’t call him or show up at his house when he told me too, he would make a huge deal out of it and tell me I was cheating on him or something stupid like that. I can remember one time I had to work later and I didn’t get a chance to call him and let him know. I got to his house an hour or two later than I said I would be up there at. He came all unglued on me, he was screaming at me and swearing at me, and it use to get to the point where I would try to get into my car and leave. Talking to boys was definitely an issue with him. He always had to know who I was talking to, what I was talking about, and everything. He always seemed to know when I had talked to one of my guy friends also, which caused a lot of fights. It use to get so bad, and when I would start crying he would yell at me even more and tell me he didn’t want to be with me anymore and that I have wasted a year of his life. One of the last fights I can remember is when I was sitting on his bed with him while all of his friends were there, and he literally didn’t talk to me for 2 hours straight. I had finally had enough of it and grabbed my stuff and walked out his door. He chased after me out that door faster than a cheetah going after its prey. He let the loudest yell out of him I had ever herd. “Where the hell do you think your going? If you leave here right now, don’t ever come back again!” I didn’t really know what to think, so I just said “um, I am going home because you were ignoring me! You didn’t talk to me for two hours, and I am sick of being ignored and I am sick of your shit.” He didn’t like that too much. He got even angrier, he punched my car and I left. That was the last fight that I can remember having with him, because after that I ended it. I eventually figured out that I deserve someone who isn’t going to fight with me over every little thing that I did. Michael and I have had little stupid fun fights, but nothing ever as bad as my last relationship. Michael and I have been together for over a year now and we have not had one bad fight. We talk out our problems if we have issues about something, instead of accusing each other of crap and starting a huge fight. No one wants to be in a relationship where all you do is fight 24/7, least I know I don’t.
Spending money always seemed to be my job in the relationship. I was always giving Curtis money. I gave him so many things. I worked at McDonalds making minimum wage, and I made probably about 120 to 150 dollars for a 40 hours in two weeks. I had a car payment that I had to pay for, and not to mention I wasn’t even using my own car because Curtis had it. I would pay my car payment, and than I had to hand over the rest of my money to him so that he could get what he wanted to get. The whole year I was with him I don’t think he spent a penny on anything for me. When we went to Bangor I had to put gas in the car, pay for him to eat and me and not to mention his friends. It always seemed like he didn’t want me around unless I had money to give him, and if I didn’t have money to give him he would get all pissed and starting yelling at me. I never thought that it was suppose to be the girl who pays everything for the boy. Everyone that I have ever talked to or seen it’s always the boy buys and pays for the girl. Michael never lets me pay for anything. He is always spending money on me, even when I tell him no. He always tells me “Babe, you’re my girl; I want to buy you things.” It makes me feel bad at times, because I was just so use to always having to pay for everything, so it makes me feel bad that he won’t ever let me pay for anything. It never matters how much money I have, he won’t ever let me pay for anything. Michael and I have been together over a year and I think that I may have bought one meal for us and that’s it. He always gives me a dirty look when I tell him that I want to pay for something. Let’s just say I never get to spend money. This year for Christmas he has spent way too much money on me. He has bought me a pink dell laptop, pink LG rhythm cell phone and some other things that I don’t know about. Michael never lets me spend any money on him, I have spent a hundred and something on him so far for Christmas and he is mad because he says “I spent way too much money on him already.” It makes me feel good that he respects me and cares about me, and actually treats me how I am supposed to be treated. I don’t care about how much money he spends on me, I just care about the love behind everything that he does.
Experiencing two different relationships really opens your eyes about how people are. When Curtis and I broke up at first I was just heartbroken because I didn’t think that I deserved anyone else, and he made me feel like I didn’t. He made me feel guilty about everything, but with Michael I have never been happier. We have an amazing relationship and I never want to have to experience another relationship. He treats me with respect and treats me like a lady. When I’m with him I feel safe and protected, and I feel like no one could ever bring me down. It’s the best feeling in the world.