Division Essay

Growing up with a big family was fun at times but a lot of times it was hell. In my family I also have “step” family. I have step grandmother, cousins, aunts and also uncles. All my “step” family is all related to each other by blood, so that causes turmoil, and it makes feelings ruff with others in the family. Every family has there issues and problems that usually seem to work out, but with this particular problems it never seems to get any better.

We all choose favorite cousins and grandparents but what kind of grandparents chooses favorite grandchildren? My step grandmother and my grandfather always choose my cousins Danielle, Renee and Aderyn over the rest of us grandchildren. They have nothing to do with the other thirteen grandchildren, which cause hard feelings towards them. They do everything for them three girls. They pay for things for prom, birthdays, and all that good stuff. They bring them places like to the ocean, hunting, leaf looking, boating, camping and all the other things that we would like to do with them. By them choosing favorites it pushes the rest of us away, and it makes us have negative attitudes and feelings towards them like hate.

Picking favorites is not the only hurtful thing that seems to occur daily with them. Lying is another negative impact that they send the family. They are constantly making up lies about all the family, and it hurts the family’s feelings and it also causes all of us to fight because they will go to one person and be like “Did you hear what so and so said? They said this about you and that about you.” A thing like this causes turmoil in the family, so basically it’s like world war three all the time in the family. When you confront the certain ones that say things badly about you they will lie right to your face when you know it’s true and say they didn’t say anything about you. It gets tiring easily, and annoying. It gets to the point where we don’t talk to any of them that are in groups together because all we get is lies, and it makes it so hard to believe what is and what’s not true.

Family functions is usually a thing where the whole family gets involved but in their opinion in family functions is when three of four of them get together and do things together. For instance, none of us are invited to holiday functions. The only ones who are once again involved in anything with my grandparents is Lianne, Corey, Danielle, Renee, and Aderyn. They celebrate Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, birthdays together and all that great and family fun stuff. Most of the time, we are all lucky if we even get a call on Christmas or on our birthdays. They don’t ever make time to come see any of us grandchildren. They don’t make an effort to see us when we are going to our prom, or if we have had surgery or anything important to us. We have all tried to have something to do with them but it came to the point where we all throwed our hands in the air and stopped caring because nothing that we said to them or did for them was never good enough, and they will never recognize us for we are.

It seems like that none of the family means anything to them, because if we all did they wouldn’t do what they do to all of us. There is more that they do, but the three things that I talked about are the main three things that hurt’s the family the most. The worst part is, they realize what they are doing, but the just don’t care. Family isn’t suppose to act this way towards each other. Family is all we have in life that will forever be in our hearts; and the day that we loose a loved one maybe it will open their eyes up and they will see all that they have lost, and missed. But, it’s hard to say. Things will always be the same until something tragic opens their eyes up.