Graft #8

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I feel that everything that was written about the topic "love" in this essay is so true. It starts off the same way everytime. You pay extra attention for the one you seek. Both hang out for a while, get to know each other really good, experience things with eachother, cry together, have fun together but most of the time in the end it all ends in a big ole heart break. There are so many characteristics that play in the role of "love". I agree that the three major roles of fear, dishonesty, and selfishness are major characteristics. Everyone has all of this things running through their minds while you are in a relationship.

Dishonesty is like a virus that spreads. Most of the time when we tell little white lies to the one we are with the get bigger and bigger. Not being honest with the ones that we are with will make all the feeling dissapear. When I was with my ex-boyfriend there was someone else that I had interest in towards the end. I wanted to tell him the truth that I I lost interest in him for so many reasons, but i was dishonest to him about everything and we ended up not being friends at all. Now when I have a problem I talk to the one I am with now, because I don't want the spark to our fire to die.

Fear always gets in the way of peoples feelings. I have been cheated on before and now I have a hard time to trust people, even though there is no reason not to trust them. I always fear that I am going to loose Michael (my boyfriend). It doesn't turn my feelings around for him because I know that what I share with him is true, but sometimes it does put me in a bad mood; which also puts him in a bad mood. It seems that sometimes when people fear that their partner is going to maybe cheat on them than it ruins their relationship. Fear seems to end alot of people's relationships.

Selfishness would probley be the most occuring thing that happens in relationships. No one likes to share their partner with anyone else. Even when they are talking to their friends we all tend to get alittle selfish and get all angry. Even though we don't mean to it seems to happen, we can't control it no matter how hard we try because it's somethign that happens to every single person on this planet. Also if we don't give the correct attention to our partner than they may feel that all the attention is going on someone else, when in all actuality it really isn't. They are just being too selfish to realize that it's not all about them!

I agree with everything in that essay explains exactly how things in a relationship go.